A Woman of Valor
Twenty years ago, my father gave my mother a beautiful diamond ring for their 15 year wedding anniversary. I’ve always loved that ring and have felt deeply excited to inherit it from my mother. I was talking to my husband about it and how I adore the myriad ways my father has demonstrated his love for my mother. I wrote a quote in my journal at 16 that said, “The best thing a father can do for his children is love their mother,” and I am now remembering it, because my father has never failed to show me the love he has for his wife. This ring tops all the gifts I’ve seen him give my mother. Well, besides the pajama t-shirt he once gave her that had a big smiley face on it and said “Girlfriend.” It was the funniest gift he ever gave, because it coincided with his goofiness to always answer her phone calls and greet her by saying, “How you doin’ girlfriend?” as if they were a pair of girlfriends ready to get their gossip on. I still laugh about it to this day. So, I began to share the ring story with my husband and was expressing to him my desire for the same life long love affair in our marriage and on this particular day, my mother happened to be visiting. I asked her to take off the ring so I could show it to him. Of course, she could have modeled it herself, but I just HAD to wear it, needed to feel it against my own skin. As I placed this luscious multi-diamond ring on my finger, my mother said, “You’re wearing it upside down. It’s suppose to be worn the other way so it can be seen as the crown that it is.” This was news to me! All along I’d been thinking the ring was two leaves coming together, but then my mother enlightened me and hubby by taking us back to her anniversary day…My husband left this ring for me on our bedroom night stand with a note next to it. Along with his own message, he shared this biblical verse, “A woman of valor is the crown of her husband.” My husband said that the ring was a symbol of that truth for him; that I was his jeweled crown. Whoa! I was blown away. What strikes me as romantic, also strikes me as being profound, because here I am, years later, all grown up, and recently, a beautiful stranger came across my blog and shared this bit of powerful knowledge with me as she said it “fit well” with this Convivial Society for women:
From the inside emerges a story of men manipulated by potent women and nurtured with feminine values…a story that reveals the inner quality of womanhood that transcends the minds of men. The inner light of womanhood is of an essence-quality, of a place the mind cannot touch .This is the secret of the words of Solomon’s wisdom, “A woman of valor is the crown of her husband.” As a crown is above the head and beyond it, so the inner light of womanhood…of the most lofty, enlightened souls, many had wives greater than themselves…this is because these great men, in their personal lives, were already tasting of the World to Come…
Upon having a stranger turned spiritual friend share Solomon’s wisdom with me, I felt the instant connection and synchronicity of that convivial moment in time between two people in love, two people whose love gave me life, and its new connection to this Convivial Society. Perhaps it isn’t new; maybe it’s been something in the making all along…a full circle experience finally coming to fruition. I close by saying, Off with your heads! It’s all about the heart and what it moves you to do. Mine is luring me to go polish my inner crown. Gonna make it sparkle, make her shine, ever so bright.
For more reading on those lofty, enlightened men’s souls, go here.
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I agree completely! The greatest thing two people can do for each other is nurture and help each other flourish, and if they do that, those around them – their children, friends, acquaintances – will follow their example, maybe not consciously, but they will. For me, that example of loving each other and being each other’s crown are my parents and both sets of grandparents, and of course you, my dear, and Martin, and I couldn’t wish for a better lesson from my earliest years: don’t compete, don’t try to OVERpower your other half, but EMpower them, because it makes the two of you stronger together. It is so convivial, after all, to not only know your power, but to share it with those who nurture it:)
22 Mar 10
I’m trying to contain my spirit and excitement with this, Nina. Thanks for sharing!
22 Mar 10
Wow what a great story! Who would of known your dad was such a romantic.
22 Mar 10