5 Tips For Getting The Most Out of Your Apology
Recently, I came across Marie Forleo’s video on “How to Give Good Apology,” where she talks about a famous two-letter word we should avoid when wanting to make amends with someone.
Let me tell you, when it comes to committing social blunders or slips of the tongue, I’m your girl! Just like my guy, Lloyd Dobler in the movie, Say Anything (my all-time fave film), I too suffer on occasion from that “nervous talking thing” or as Marie put it, diarrhea of the mouth. The shit just comes out wrong sometimes! A friend of mine calls those “Cheryl” moments.
Bottom line, I’ve had my fair share of fallouts and have made and still make silly mistakes with people, but after a few days of smacking myself upside the head, I forgive myself, because I know I mean well.
For this reason, I didn’t hesitate to hear Marie’s take on a proper apology and as a bonus, I decided to add my two cents on the general conversation of conflict resolution.
In the following video, I share with you the process I go through when it’s time to humble myself and offer up an apology.
NOTE: I filmed on the fly so forgive the “uhhs” and “umms” on my part. I was anxious to hear you say “Ahaaa”.
Just click below and watch me break it down for ya!
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To find out what that word is that Marie was talking about, watch her video here.
Hey doll, I’m getting ‘this is a private video’ warning thingy, so can’t watch your gorgeous face and hear your wise words!!!
10 Feb 11
I love the tips Cheryl. Thank you
I especially like the ‘declare what you are apologising for’ and acknowledge how it affected them.
11 Feb 11
Great tips Cheryl! I have my moments too… sometimes I offend people just because we’re different and I don’t realize that what I’m saying is something that would put them off or hurt their feelings. I always apologize and make clear how I understand NOW why that would upset them and that I genuinely did not mean to do so. xo
11 Feb 11
I liked the topic, because at least for me it is unpleasant and awkward to apologize although I do admit when I have faulted; but whenever I must apologize I have no clue where to begin or what exact words to say without screwing the situation even more, I try to be myself I am honest and confident about what I say to the other person because it just flows on naturally since I mean it….
13 Feb 11
Really good tips, Cheryl. I too, am a fan of Marie Forleo! I really love your first point about leaving the ego at the door….it’s key! Thanks for a great post!
~Piper
13 Feb 11
Thanks Piper for stopping by and sharing your thoughts! Your name is so cool. Can’t wait to meet up sometime!
23 Feb 11